Comments for Juno Magazine http://www.junomagazine.com Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:39:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 Comment on Half Term Detox by Saffia http://www.junomagazine.com/half-term-detox/#comment-90 Saffia Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:39:24 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1565#comment-90 Thanks for sharing this Gillian. We seem to have been pretty busy this half term, but busy doing nothing as you say, and spending lots of great time with friends. The key for us is fewer deadlines, and not HAVING to do things, like homework - like you, homework is something I'm not keen on - my children are only 8 and 6! Thanks for sharing this Gillian. We seem to have been pretty busy this half term, but busy doing nothing as you say, and spending lots of great time with friends. The key for us is fewer deadlines, and not HAVING to do things, like homework – like you, homework is something I’m not keen on – my children are only 8 and 6!

]]> Comment on Half Term Detox by Gillian Dunne http://www.junomagazine.com/half-term-detox/#comment-89 Gillian Dunne Mon, 20 Feb 2012 16:01:41 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1565#comment-89 I absolutely agree that the pressures of school build up almost to breaking point sometimes - I've noticed it more since the children went to secondary school (years 7 and 12). For years, I used to 'schedule' wind down activities during the holidays; if it's Tuesday it must be...... but I've learned to let them find their own equilibrium over the years. In particular, after weeks of focussing on nothing but homework (how I hate that), it was a delight last week to see Amelia baking up a storm, going to the cinema with friends and really engaging with her art again. Alexander is studying for AS exams, but he too, still spent time simply with friends and going for long walks by himself, something he's grown to love. I also took some holiday last week and it was a treat for us to all get busy doing nothing! In an ideal world, I would have loved to have homeschooled, but my circumstances didn't allow for that. I think, though, we've managed on the whole to find a reasonable compromise! I absolutely agree that the pressures of school build up almost to breaking point sometimes – I’ve noticed it more since the children went to secondary school (years 7 and 12). For years, I used to ‘schedule’ wind down activities during the holidays; if it’s Tuesday it must be…… but I’ve learned to let them find their own equilibrium over the years. In particular, after weeks of focussing on nothing but homework (how I hate that), it was a delight last week to see Amelia baking up a storm, going to the cinema with friends and really engaging with her art again. Alexander is studying for AS exams, but he too, still spent time simply with friends and going for long walks by himself, something he’s grown to love. I also took some holiday last week and it was a treat for us to all get busy doing nothing! In an ideal world, I would have loved to have homeschooled, but my circumstances didn’t allow for that. I think, though, we’ve managed on the whole to find a reasonable compromise!

]]> Comment on Balance bike blog – post 5 by Amy Vickers http://www.junomagazine.com/balance-bike-blog-%e2%80%93-post-5/#comment-87 Amy Vickers Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:30:07 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1460#comment-87 Balance bikes rock! Within a month of my 2 and a half year old boy getting a balance bike he was flying. Went through two new pairs of trainers though! The toes were out completely; we had to designate those as "Biking shoes" from then on. At 3 and a half I picked up a second hand pedal bike with no stabilizers for him. My mum said he needs stabilizers, I said "he doesn't, he has fab balance". First time on the bike, he cycled up and down our street with no help whatsoever. Amazing. Everyone was gobsmacked. Comments included: "I didn't know a 3 year old could do things like that!" Still hasn't mastered the breaks tho, still uses his toes. Stabilizers can really knock their confidence and hold them back. Happy cycling xx Balance bikes rock! Within a month of my 2 and a half year old boy getting a balance bike he was flying. Went through two new pairs of trainers though! The toes were out completely; we had to designate those as “Biking shoes” from then on.
At 3 and a half I picked up a second hand pedal bike with no stabilizers for him. My mum said he needs stabilizers, I said “he doesn’t, he has fab balance”. First time on the bike, he cycled up and down our street with no help whatsoever. Amazing. Everyone was gobsmacked. Comments included: “I didn’t know a 3 year old could do things like that!” Still hasn’t mastered the breaks tho, still uses his toes.
Stabilizers can really knock their confidence and hold them back. Happy cycling xx

]]> Comment on Lynnea Shrief talks about placentas on Channel 4, Wednesday 11 January 2012 by Anonymous http://www.junomagazine.com/lynnea-shrief-talks-about-placentas-on-channel-4-wednesday-11-january-2012/#comment-81 Anonymous Mon, 16 Jan 2012 13:40:21 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1392#comment-81 In regards to your claims about "bonding" I would like to refer you to the following longitudinal studies for further research on this topic: Ali and Lowry 1981 Rutter 1972 Chess and Thomas 1982 Curry 1979 deChateau 1980 deChateau and Wiberg 1977. All of these studies were based on the "bonding" theory described by Lynnea Shrief in the program. These studies disprove all of the claims made by Lynnea Shrief in regards to the lack of emotional connection experienced with cesarian section birthed babies and their mothers. I find it very noble to be a natural mother in these consumerist times, but please heed to the facts rather than the assumptions. Thank you. In regards to your claims about “bonding” I would like to refer you to the following longitudinal studies for further research on this topic:

Ali and Lowry 1981
Rutter 1972
Chess and Thomas 1982
Curry 1979
deChateau 1980
deChateau and Wiberg 1977.

All of these studies were based on the “bonding” theory described by Lynnea Shrief in the program. These studies disprove all of the claims made by Lynnea Shrief in regards to the lack of emotional connection experienced with cesarian section birthed babies and their mothers. I find it very noble to be a natural mother in these consumerist times, but please heed to the facts rather than the assumptions.
Thank you.

]]> Comment on Lynnea Shrief talks about placentas on Channel 4, Wednesday 11 January 2012 by Caroline http://www.junomagazine.com/lynnea-shrief-talks-about-placentas-on-channel-4-wednesday-11-january-2012/#comment-80 Caroline Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:36:57 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1392#comment-80 Jenny I have to say I sort of agree all three of mine were c sections due to a horse accident earlier in life and pregnancy complications after my first I was made well aware I would never be able to have a natural birth which was what I wanted in the first place and I haven't had bonding issues either with either of my girls but I do believe that people's oppinions are based on things that occur in their own lives and she did say that hers was based on her and her mothers relationship after being a c section baby herself. So if she has not had the opportunity of being acquainted by a mother who has had a c section with out bonding issues it is safe to say anyone In that situation would come out coming to the conclusion. I didn't really find it hurtful more saddening of the lack of knowledge on c section parent baby relations I have been in contact with lots of mums and babies since having mine and have seen bonding issues and regaurdless of how the baby was born the issues seem to stem from the same reasons of depression or difficult labour and birth (talking from expirience as I had bonding issues with my son after a complicated pregnancy leading to my son being still born for 4 minutes after a gruelling 72 hour labour where I was forgotten and ended up with me flatlining on the operating table as they tried to save my son I remember spending weeks convinced I was carrying around a dead baby after a mess up with my dates and being ignored when I told them I had not felt movements day after day for 2 weeks and when I heard them say once more or we will call time I honestly never expected to eat him spring to life but he did and after I got over hoovering over him scared to death he would die and not sleeping invade I miss him slip away with help from specialists we couldn't be stronger and when my girls came along it was a different story each being born before due date because of what happened with Thomas and other complications we knew would arrise had no problems attaching myself to them after all bonding starts with every touch of your belly and every thought about names, clothes, cot choices pram choices long before we get to reach out and touch them or hear them the moment you see your miracle on the screen before you when you sit and discuss what you plan to do and the mother and father you want to be (come on we all do it lol) It shouldn't be hurtful I strongly believe one of the many keys to being a good mum is being yourself and finding what suits you not what someone else tells you suits them we are all different and it is our differences that make us special. I honestly think Sharon did do you all well in the end I was surprised ( as you would have noticed above I wasn't keen on the woman) but the show gave you more of an insight in to her which sort of explains some of the things I put down to argagence was in fact self doubt and insecurity. Congratulations to you fantastic and brave women who had the courage to stand up for the way you look after yours I found although I don't agree with everything everyone of you said I have a lot in common with each of you even if it is just an admiration for you being able to have the patience or in your case the thought to have even considered before having the baby the properties of the placenta I admire each and every one of you for being yourselves not one of the children looked like they were suffering from any of your decisions and for each of you it works so good on you we all find what sort of mum we are eventually but it doesn't happen over night and I don't think you are ever 100% sure what you are doing is right but it's what we feel is right for us and our children at any given time x x Good luck all of you and I am soo pleased it was done so well x x Oh by the way so proud of you Charlene and Lynnea (and I don't even know you Lynnea) you should both be very proud x x Jenny I have to say I sort of agree all three of mine were c sections due to a horse accident earlier in life and pregnancy complications after my first I was made well aware I would never be able to have a natural birth which was what I wanted in the first place and I haven’t had bonding issues either with either of my girls but I do believe that people’s oppinions are based on things that occur in their own lives and she did say that hers was based on her and her mothers relationship after being a c section baby herself. So if she has not had the opportunity of being acquainted by a mother who has had a c section with out bonding issues it is safe to say anyone In that situation would come out coming to the conclusion.

I didn’t really find it hurtful more saddening of the lack of knowledge on c section parent baby relations I have been in contact with lots of mums and babies since having mine and have seen bonding issues and regaurdless of how the baby was born the issues seem to stem from the same reasons of depression or difficult labour and birth (talking from expirience as I had bonding issues with my son after a complicated pregnancy leading to my son being still born for 4 minutes after a gruelling 72 hour labour where I was forgotten and ended up with me flatlining on the operating table as they tried to save my son I remember spending weeks convinced I was carrying around a dead baby after a mess up with my dates and being ignored when I told them I had not felt movements day after day for 2 weeks and when I heard them say once more or we will call time I honestly never expected to eat him spring to life but he did and after I got over hoovering over him scared to death he would die and not sleeping invade I miss him slip away with help from specialists we couldn’t be stronger and when my girls came along it was a different story each being born before due date because of what happened with Thomas and other complications we knew would arrise had no problems attaching myself to them after all bonding starts with every touch of your belly and every thought about names, clothes, cot choices pram choices long before we get to reach out and touch them or hear them the moment you see your miracle on the screen before you when you sit and discuss what you plan to do and the mother and father you want to be (come on we all do it lol)

It shouldn’t be hurtful I strongly believe one of the many keys to being a good mum is being yourself and finding what suits you not what someone else tells you suits them we are all different and it is our differences that make us special.

I honestly think Sharon did do you all well in the end I was surprised ( as you would have noticed above I wasn’t keen on the woman) but the show gave you more of an insight in to her which sort of explains some of the things I put down to argagence was in fact self doubt and insecurity.

Congratulations to you fantastic and brave women who had the courage to stand up for the way you look after yours I found although I don’t agree with everything everyone of you said I have a lot in common with each of you even if it is just an admiration for you being able to have the patience or in your case the thought to have even considered before having the baby the properties of the placenta I admire each and every one of you for being yourselves not one of the children looked like they were suffering from any of your decisions and for each of you it works so good on you we all find what sort of mum we are eventually but it doesn’t happen over night and I don’t think you are ever 100% sure what you are doing is right but it’s what we feel is right for us and our children at any given time x x

Good luck all of you and I am soo pleased it was done so well x x

Oh by the way so proud of you Charlene and Lynnea (and I don’t even know you Lynnea) you should both be very proud x x

]]> Comment on Lynnea Shrief talks about placentas on Channel 4, Wednesday 11 January 2012 by Jenny Thomas http://www.junomagazine.com/lynnea-shrief-talks-about-placentas-on-channel-4-wednesday-11-january-2012/#comment-78 Jenny Thomas Thu, 12 Jan 2012 11:52:39 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1392#comment-78 As much as I was interested to hear about the benefits of eating placenta, unfortunately the overwhelming thing that I took away from your part in the programme was your negativity about cesarean section. To suggest that mothers who give birth by cesarean do not bond properly or have good relationships with their children I found hurtful. Of course you are entitled to your opinion but the language you used was really offensive "babies cut open and ripped out of the womb, filled with drugs." I have a really close bond with both my children and I already feel a great sense of disappointment and guilt about not having the chance to give birth naturally. We are all mothers that have the same goal of nurturing and bringing up our children in the best way possible and I feel we should support each other, not criticise. As much as I was interested to hear about the benefits of eating placenta, unfortunately the overwhelming thing that I took away from your part in the programme was your negativity about cesarean section. To suggest that mothers who give birth by cesarean do not bond properly or have good relationships with their children I found hurtful. Of course you are entitled to your opinion but the language you used was really offensive “babies cut open and ripped out of the womb, filled with drugs.” I have a really close bond with both my children and I already feel a great sense of disappointment and guilt about not having the chance to give birth naturally. We are all mothers that have the same goal of nurturing and bringing up our children in the best way possible and I feel we should support each other, not criticise.

]]> Comment on Balance Bike Blog – Part 4 by Saffia http://www.junomagazine.com/balance-bike-blog-%e2%80%93-post-4/#comment-77 Saffia Wed, 11 Jan 2012 23:12:38 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1348#comment-77 interesting comment - J was saying similar things about it being a "big girl's" bike yesterday, this will be be part of my next post. interesting comment – J was saying similar things about it being a “big girl’s” bike yesterday, this will be be part of my next post.

]]> Comment on Balance Bike Blog – Part 4 by Jeremy http://www.junomagazine.com/balance-bike-blog-%e2%80%93-post-4/#comment-76 Jeremy Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:09:54 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1348#comment-76 What I liked most about getting my then 3-year old a balance bike was the amount of pride, confidence and responsibility he displayed after getting his own bike. He was very proud to have his own "big boy" bike like his older brother. What I liked most about getting my then 3-year old a balance bike was the amount of pride, confidence and responsibility he displayed after getting his own bike. He was very proud to have his own “big boy” bike like his older brother.

]]> Comment on Lynnea Shrief talks about placentas on Channel 4, Wednesday 11 January 2012 by Saffia http://www.junomagazine.com/lynnea-shrief-talks-about-placentas-on-channel-4-wednesday-11-january-2012/#comment-75 Saffia Wed, 11 Jan 2012 11:08:38 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1392#comment-75 Well done Lynnea, you came across really well and your calm annecdotal evidence about how eating your placenta helped milk production stopped them all gasping and made them listen. One thing that occurred to me listening to the debate is how the lack of community is affecting this whole issue. In times past, new mothers would have been supported and nurtured by their own mothers and other women around them. Now we all live apart and independently, we've lost that support network who would have automatically helped us learn new skills like breastfeeding. Sometimes, even in our modern world, I think it does help to look back and learn from the past. Another very important point was that the key to the breastfeeding debate is the attitude of society. We can say "breast is best" all we like but if wider society are "disapproving" of breastfeeding mums, we'll end up with nothing but frustration and guilt. I'd say "breastfeeding is natural" so society (and the mass media) should just back off and let mums get on with it! Well done Lynnea, you came across really well and your calm annecdotal evidence about how eating your placenta helped milk production stopped them all gasping and made them listen.

One thing that occurred to me listening to the debate is how the lack of community is affecting this whole issue. In times past, new mothers would have been supported and nurtured by their own mothers and other women around them. Now we all live apart and independently, we’ve lost that support network who would have automatically helped us learn new skills like breastfeeding. Sometimes, even in our modern world, I think it does help to look back and learn from the past.

Another very important point was that the key to the breastfeeding debate is the attitude of society. We can say “breast is best” all we like but if wider society are “disapproving” of breastfeeding mums, we’ll end up with nothing but frustration and guilt. I’d say “breastfeeding is natural” so society (and the mass media) should just back off and let mums get on with it!

]]> Comment on Lynnea Shrief talks about placentas on Channel 4, Wednesday 11 January 2012 by Lynnea http://www.junomagazine.com/lynnea-shrief-talks-about-placentas-on-channel-4-wednesday-11-january-2012/#comment-74 Lynnea Tue, 10 Jan 2012 23:13:49 +0000 http://www.junomagazine.com/?p=1392#comment-74 Let's try to be positive Charlene, I really hope all goes well for us tomorrow and I'm prepared for anything. I've taken knocks and bumps in my life, it would be big if they got it wrong but I really have high hopes and think that Sharon will reflect on our styles later in the show and won't be too critical. I know Channel 4 has a reputation for twisting shows like this but I'm staying optomistic and positive and hoping for the best! Let’s try to be positive Charlene, I really hope all goes well for us tomorrow and I’m prepared for anything. I’ve taken knocks and bumps in my life, it would be big if they got it wrong but I really have high hopes and think that Sharon will reflect on our styles later in the show and won’t be too critical. I know Channel 4 has a reputation for twisting shows like this but I’m staying optomistic and positive and hoping for the best!

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